A lot of people always respond “YES” to everything and they attend all of the parties and don’t miss a chance to hang out drinking coffee, because they are afraid they would miss something out. As time passes they realize how unnecessary is wasting energy for other people.
Who wants to change, needs to look into themselves and find out what really matters. It is important you dedicate some time to yourself. When you do, you quickly realize how pleasant and interesting are moments when you are not always a part of everything that is happening around you.
Everyone often finds themselves in the situation they find hard to turn down. Although every situation like this, is an opportunity to learn how to say NO. A small, yet effective word, which a lot of people rather avoid. Maybe the situation don’t even suit you or you would rather do something else. But you still say YES and then get upset with yourself, because you once again did not put yourself and your needs first.
SET THE BOUNDARIES
If you want to avoid all this you need to learn how to say “NO”.
It’s healthy and important to know how to say NO without feeling guilty or even scared. We need to understand that it is not egoistic. It is simply knowing how to control energy and priorities in your life. People can only manage certain number of tasks in one day, then we need time for rest and regeneration. We decide what comes first and what do we really want to achieve in life. Our time on Earth is limited, so it is wise to use time (and energy) we have, for things we care about.
Who has problems rejecting somebody’s request, is probably just afraid of not being loved any more. But one day it will be necessary to realize why is he or she appreciated. Definitely not because of the fact that he/she is always willing to help and do everything for others! It’s more likely that other people will start to appreciate us exactly because we know how to set priorities, put ourselves first and make our dreams come true.
Earn attention and respect by saying NO.
When to say “NO”?
Sometimes it’s hard to decide what is less or more important. Strategies below can help you to evaluate the importance of your obligations.
• Focus on what really matter to you. Before you commit to new obligation, take a good look at your current ones. Ask yourself, if your new obligation or assignment is really so important to you.
• Think about how much stress will this new obligation cause you? Do not accept anything, if you know, you will be under stress for months because of that. Rather choose things, people or situations which fill you with happiness, positivity and strength.
• Forget about the guilt. O not accept anything just because you feel guilty or because you think you should accept it. You just put yourself in a bad mood and under a lot of stress and throw away energy you need for creating your dream life.
• Sleep things over. Before you make your final decision, take a day to reconsider the whole thing. You know what wise men say: “When you are in a hurry, sit down/slow down!” It is wise to take some time for yourself, to rethink the situation, inner perception and feelings. After that, make a decision and decide how you want to get things done.